Infertility Counseling in Madison, Wisconsin
Your hive of healing starts here.
Dancing Bee Counseling offers compassionate fertility support for individuals and couples on their journey to building a family. Whether you're navigating infertility, pregnancy loss, or IVF, we provide care that focuses on hope, healing, and resilience. Abby Lemke, MS, LPC-IT, is a dedicated infertility therapist with a deep understanding of reproductive medicine and the unique challenges this path can bring—helping you feel supported, understood, and empowered every step of the way.
Fertility Counseling Services
Infertility can feel overwhelming, touching every part of life—your relationships, your sense of self, and your dreams for the future. You don't have to face this alone. I offer therapy designed to support the unique emotional challenges of reproductive struggles, providing understanding and tools that truly fit what you're experiencing.
IVF Emotional Support
The two-week wait, failed transfers, retrieval anxiety, and the emotional rollercoaster of fertility treatment cycles. Support that understands the protocol.
Learn More →Pregnancy Loss & Miscarriage
Grief counseling for miscarriage, chemical pregnancy, ectopic loss, stillbirth, and recurrent pregnancy loss. Your loss matters, no matter how early.
Learn More →TFMR Support
Termination for medical reasons brings grief that few people understand. Judgment-free support for the impossible decision you never wanted to make.
Learn More →Couples Fertility Counseling
Infertility strains marriages in specific ways. Different grieving styles, intimacy struggles, and making treatment decisions together when you disagree.
Learn More →Pregnancy & Postpartum
Pregnancy after infertility brings anxiety, not just joy. Perinatal mental health support for the fears that don't go away after a positive test.
Learn More →Waunakee Office
In-person infertility counseling at our Waunakee location. Easy access from Madison, Middleton, Sun Prairie, and surrounding Dane County communities.
Learn More →Fertility Counseling for Every Stage
I work with anyone trying to build a family including members of the LGBTQ+ Community and solo parents. I honor you, wherever you are in your journey.
Starting Fertility Treatment
Preparing emotionally for IUI, IVF, or other interventions. Managing anxiety about what's ahead.
After Pregnancy Loss
Processing miscarriage, stillbirth, or TFMR. Grief that others minimize or don't understand.
Unexplained Infertility
The frustration of no diagnosis. All tests normal, still not pregnant. Living with uncertainty.
Male Factor Infertility
Men experience infertility grief too. Support for the partner often overlooked in this process.
Secondary Infertility
Struggling to conceive again after having a child. The grief that people dismiss because you already have one.
Third-Party Reproduction
Donor eggs, donor sperm, embryo donation, and surrogacy. The emotional complexity of building family with help.
Exploring Options
Childfree Living, Researching the Complex World of Adoption.
Pregnant After Infertility
Finally pregnant but terrified. Pregnancy after loss anxiety. When joy comes with fear.
Abby Lemke, MS, LPC-IT
Reproductive Mental Health Specialist
I founded Dancing Bee Counseling to provide specialized support for those navigating the emotional challenges of infertility. Fertility struggles can feel overwhelming and isolating, and I wanted to create a space where people feel truly understood. My work combines compassion with expertise in the unique realities of reproductive care—because your journey deserves care that honors your story.
As a member of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine with specialized training in fertility and perinatal mental health, I speak the language of infertility. I understand the protocols, the grief, the relationship strain, and the emotional weight that comes with building a family when the journey feels out of your control.
My infertility counseling focuses on what matters most—your emotional well-being and your unique challenges—so you feel heard, supported, and never alone.
Why See a Fertility Therapist?
Specialized infertility counseling offers the understanding and support your journey deserves.
Knowledgeable about Fertility Care & Treatment
You won't have to explain the difference between an IUI and an IVF. I'm well-versed in the medical realities of infertility. This means our sessions can focus on what matters most—your emotions, your experiences, and your path forward.
Infertility Grief Is Specific
The grief of infertility isn't like other losses. It's anticipatory, recurring, invisible, and often minimized by others. Infertility grief counseling requires understanding this unique form of mourning.
No "Just Relax" Advice
I will never tell you to relax, stop trying so hard, or suggest that stress is causing your infertility. I know better. I know the research. And I know how harmful that advice is.
I Understand the Relationship Strain
Infertility affects marriages in specific ways: different coping styles, treatment disagreements, intimacy struggles, and the weight of shared grief. Couples fertility counseling addresses these patterns.
Questions About Infertility Counseling
What is infertility counseling?
Infertility counseling is specialized therapy that addresses the emotional, psychological, and relational challenges of trying to conceive. Unlike general therapy, infertility counseling is provided by therapists who understand fertility treatment protocols, the medical aspects of infertility, and the unique grief that comes with reproductive loss. Sessions focus on managing anxiety during treatment cycles, processing pregnancy loss, making decisions about next steps, coping with the strain on relationships, and building resilience through a difficult experience. A fertility therapist helps you process emotions without having to explain what an IUI is or why a negative beta hurts so much.
Do I need a therapist who specializes in infertility?
You don't have to see a specialist, but most people find it makes a significant difference. General therapists are trained to help with anxiety, depression, and grief, but they may not understand the specific experience of infertility. With a fertility counselor, you won't spend session time explaining what follicle monitoring is or why you're giving yourself injections. You won't have to educate your therapist about why "just relax" is harmful advice. A specialized infertility therapist already knows the emotional terrain of fertility treatment and can meet you where you are immediately.
When should I start infertility counseling?
There's no wrong time to start. Some people seek fertility counseling when they first start trying and it's not happening as quickly as expected. Others come after a diagnosis, before starting IVF, after a pregnancy loss, or when they're considering stopping treatment. Common entry points include: when trying to conceive is affecting your mental health or relationship, before or during fertility treatment like IVF or IUI, after miscarriage or pregnancy loss, when facing difficult decisions about treatment options, when infertility is straining your marriage, or when you need support that friends and family can't provide.
Does infertility counseling help you get pregnant?
Infertility counseling doesn't cure infertility or guarantee pregnancy. The myth that stress causes infertility leads some people to believe that therapy will help them conceive by reducing stress. While managing stress is valuable for your quality of life during treatment, therapy isn't a fertility treatment. What counseling does help with: making clearer decisions about treatment, maintaining your mental health and relationships during a difficult time, processing grief from losses, preparing emotionally for IVF cycles, and coping if treatment doesn't result in pregnancy. The goal is supporting you through the experience, whatever the outcome.
How do I find an infertility therapist near me in Madison?
When searching for an infertility counselor in the Madison, Wisconsin area, look for therapists with specific training in reproductive mental health. The American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM) offers specialized training that many fertility therapists complete. Ask potential therapists about their experience with infertility, whether they understand fertility treatment protocols, and what percentage of their practice focuses on reproductive issues. Dancing Bee Counseling in Waunakee serves the greater Madison area including Middleton, Sun Prairie, Fitchburg, Verona, and DeForest. Telehealth is available throughout Wisconsin for those who prefer virtual sessions or live outside Dane County.
Infertility Counseling in Madison, Wisconsin
Dancing Bee Counseling is located in Waunakee, serving the greater Madison metro area and all of Wisconsin through telehealth.
🐝 Dancing Bee Counseling
Office Address
101 E Main St, Suite 4
Waunakee, WI 53597
Phone
608-967-6105Serving Dane County and Beyond
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You Don't Have to Do This Alone
Infertility is isolating enough. A consultation is simply a conversation about what you're going through and how therapy might help.
In-person in Waunakee · Telehealth throughout Wisconsin